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pentru ca multi din noi stau foarte mult timp on-line, aici se petrec multe din actiunile de zsi cu zi, inclusiv flirturile si intalnirile...
as vrea sa vorbim deschis despre asta, eventual cu niste exemple concrete, sfaturi de la altii sau pentru altii, etc
am aici cateva extrase din sfaturile unui expert in materie, evident american :)

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Top 10 email turnoffs for women

1.Don't ask her how much she weighs or what her measurements are. You might as well just tell her you only want to sleep with her and you have no interest in getting to know her, because that's what she's going to think if you ask her this.

2. Don't email her seven times asking her why she hasn't responded to your first email. Women get far more email than men do, so you need to be patient.
Instead of harassing her, relax and be confident that she's going to respond to you.

3. Don't ask her how many other dates she's been on from hi5. How many other dates someone has been on is not important. What is important is finding out whether the two of you click when you hang out.

4. Don't send her a nasty email if she hasn't responded to you after several emails. It's her prerogative whether or not she desires to be in contact with you. If she doesn't want to meet you, why get angry and nasty? There are plenty of other women out there who you can contact.

5. Don't ask her if she wants to have sex with you on the second email exchange, and don't send her dirty pictures of you. Women are all about connecting with their minds. Just because you're looking for a quick fling, that doesn't mean she's going to respond.

6. If she gives you her phone number, don't wait a week to call her. By extension, if you do wait a week to call her and she doesn't call you back, don't be shocked. Women have many options online. If she gives you her phone number, I suggest calling her that day. It keeps the momentum going.

7. When asking for more pictures, do so without any references to "Can you please send me a picture so I can see your body?"
Ask her if she'd like to exchange more pictures, which means you send some and she sends some. Several women have complained to me that men ask them to send pictures of themselves in bikinis or other such things, so that men can see their body. Men, don't do this!

8. Don't get offended if she doesn't want to talk to you on the phone right away and/or wants to talk to you via email first to get to know you. You need to be flexible and open to her suggestions. Sometimes you may need to email back and forth for a week, and sometimes she'll give you her phone number right away. Either way, don't be rude.

9. Do not email-stalk her.
Many of my women clients have complained to me about men who will email them several times a day for three weeks, until they are forced to block emails from those men. Men, she got your email the very first time. She just may have chosen not to open it. By sending emails several times a day, not only are you turning her off, you're freaking her out! You've become an online stalker. That's a guarantee she'll never go out with you.
10. Don't send cut-and-paste emails. When connecting with her for the very first time, don't cut and paste an email message in July that you've been sending out for six months with a tagline that says, "I love the holidays." By doing that, she knows you didn't read her profile - and that you're really, really lazy!

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Here are the 14 biggest online dating mistakes women make:1. Stop posting four different photos from four different stages in your life. This leaves a man wondering, "Who is this person?" I've looked through thousands of online profiles, and the majority of women will put up pictures from different stages of their life but not put up current pictures. All photos that you post on an online dating profile MUST BE CURRENT!!! He's going to find out what you look like when you meet, and there is no reason to lie about your looks.
2. Don't list your dislikes about Internet dating in bold, capital letters at the beginning of your profile. We've all had negative experiences online. Emphasize your positive points, not your negative ones.
3. List your exact body type. It seems like on the Internet EVERYBODY is "athletic and toned," "petite" or "fit and trim." http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/us/p...x15_nw_i_1.gifHe will find out what you look like!http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/us/p...x15_se_i_1.gif





He will find out what you look like! You might as well tell the truth in your profile, so you'll have a qualified lead and not waste somebody's time.
4. List your real age. In the world of Internet dating, it seems like there's an abundance of 29- and 39-year-old women. "29" usually means somewhere in your 30's. And a woman who is "39" is usually in her 40's. Why start a potential relationship on a lie? Men are guilty of the same thing, and I advise them the same way.
5. I'm really glad you had a great time on your vacation, but you don't need to post 10 photos of your trip to Italy WITHOUT you in them. This is a dating site, not a trip advisor. Also, stop posting pictures of you skydiving, winter skiing, waterskiing, or doing anything else where we can't see what you look like in the picture.
6. Keep your profile short and to the point. Make your paragraphs very short. I've seen too many women's profiles that look like romance novels. Take a look at Yahoo! Sports and read an article in the sports section. http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/us/p...x15_nw_i_1.gifAll paragraphs are short so men can digest that information in short bursts.http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/us/p...x15_se_i_1.gif





All paragraphs are short so men can digest that information in short bursts.
7. Don't be so self-absorbed. I've seen many women's profiles that say, "I want a man to be this," "I want a man to do that," "I want a man to cherish me," "I want a man to adore me"... You list all your "I wants" without listing what YOU will bring to the relationship. So you end up looking like you're a taker and not a giver. No man wants to be with a taker; he wants to be with someone who's equally willing to give and to receive.
8. Don't list your financial desires like you're posting a want ad. I've seen too many women write, "I'm looking for a man who will spoil me, buy me great things, and take me on great trips." You come across as a gold digger. Instead say, "I like the finer things in life to share with somebody," so you don't come across so harsh.
9. No baby talk! Even if the number one priority in your life is to be a mother, nothing scares a man off more than if you write in your profile about how badly you want kids. He may feel the same way, but he is going to think, "This woman will marry anybody to have kids." Write something a little more toned down like, "Families are important to me, and I can't wait to meet my special man so I can start a family." This shows you're selective and not just looking for someone with whom to make a kid.
10. Stop listing all your rules. Don't write things like "A perfect first date MUST be dinner" or "The man I date HAS to wear suits." Women tend to list rules in their profiles. Be open to a different kind of first date, or the kind of guy who wears jeans to work.
11. Stop sending winks. When is the last time you went to the supermarket, saw a cute guy and winked at him? Winks went out of style when "Happy Days" went off the air. You don't like it when men send you a wink. You think it makes him seem lazy and like he didn't read your profile. We think the same thing! So stop winking and start typing.
12. If you write to a man and he doesn't write you back, don't write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn't write you back. If a man doesn't respond to you, it's the same thing as when you don't write a man back. It means that he is not interested. Don't get angry, just find another person.
13. We know you're looking at us, because we see that you've viewed our profile every day. Say "hello!" We're not going to bite. Lob that email in. http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/us/p...x15_nw_i_1.gifTake a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted.http://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/us/p...x15_se_i_1.gif





Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted. You never know what might happen!
14. If a guy who you're interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away. Don't make him wait four days. He may find someone else in the time you wait to write him back. Keep the momentum going!

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Chestiile cu online ... sunt niste rahatele ...
Asta e parerea mea.

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hai mah...:)
sa stii ca eu mi-am gasit niste relatii foarte interesante incepand de pe net :)
si vreau sa spun.... intr-adevar interesante ;)

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si eu mi-am inceput relatia cu viitoarea sotie,mama copilului meu, online si e totul super.oricum,la cum arata si asa mai departe,pe strada/club sau mai stiu eu ce nu cred ca aveam sansa sa o cunosc...abordez...alea alea

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eu am cunoscut pe net, pe vremea cand era mirc-ul o tipa care acum e fotomodel pin bucuresti. deci cred in astfel de combineli :)

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Inseamna ca s-au schimbat asa de rau domnisoarele ?
De mint de ingheata apele ?
Sau asta e norocul meu ?

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probabil ca vor inghetata
:))))

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ai tu ghinion, sa stii :)
eu pun pariu pe ce vrei tu ca cel mai usor te combini pe net :)

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Si eu tot pe net am cunoscut-o pe prietena mea. De fapt chestia cu dating-ul online este foarte prezenta la oamenii cu putin timp liber. De obicei seara pe net mai legi o vorba cu cineva ca n-ai timp sa iesi prin cluburi sa cunosti persoane noi. Netul este doar punctul de pornire, de unde incepi discutia pana la momentul intalnirii fizice.

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Bag ... oricum nu mai caut =))

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dap, deci s-ar parea ca ai tu ghinion. dar totusi mai incearca :)

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Timp, de citit tot ce a scris nenea americanul ..nu am avut..poate o sa imi fac,:D cert e ca se intampla....sa cunosti persoane si se incep relatii, fie de prietenie, amicitie..etc.
Vreau sa spun.. ca eu am avut parti frumoase dar..si mai putin frumoase.. sunt persoane care desi intial..vezi Compatibilitate , apoi vezi ca mai mult de buna, ce faci.. si chesti de genu..nu o sa fie . Asa ca sfatul meu... sezi bland
., .Si sunt cazuri in care desi esti departe de acea persoana, dar doar o mica vorba de la ea.. te face sa te simti Alive .., o mica frantura dintr-o conversatie telefonica.. te face sa te simti mare...,si pur si simplu nu se pot scoate din viata...,
Bineinteles cum a prezentat..si algorunescu , eu mai adaug ..daca de ambele parti exista senzatia descrisa in mare mai sus de mine.., intalnirea o sa faca o subita si eficace trecere de la o stare .. la alta..., cea din urma. partea cu intalnirea este o stare unde doar privirea in ochii..spune totul :oops: multe de zis nu's ...;) ..toate vin de la sine.. pentru ca persoana o cunosti si daca pana atunci .. doar vocea ei te facea bine.. prezenta ei .......E TOTUL ;)

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eu pe actuala ... am intalnit-o pe hi5.. i-am dat 2 comm ea le-a intors la fel de dragut..i-am zis ceva de genu " daca e pemis sa fie febletea mea?" si mi-a dat msg cu idul am discutat ..in primul weekend ne-am vazut sa ii vand un parfum.. si am stat putin de vorba.. iar apoi am vb mai multe pe net 1 sapt dupa care ne-am vazut iar si a iesit cu scantei si de atunci asa a ramas...fiecare zi intr-o mare scanteie :D .. si nu e nici handicapata nici schioapa nici cu lentile de borcan .. e super draguta blonda ochi albastrii draguta mai micutza la inaltime, fosta dansatoare intr-un club, si e si mai mare ca mine are 24 de ani ... deci e ok !

cu fosta tot de pe net ..cu fosta la fel si tot asa ! mai rar in realitate a fost ceva :) dar pana acum actuala e cea mai ok va spun sincer si merge f bine :)

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la mine aproape toate combinatiile au inceput pe net... (mirc, messenger, hi5, simpatie, sentimente, etc)

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'R'ati ai naibii de norocosi.:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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nu am zis ca au si rezistat, sau ca s-au materializat in ceva concret:):)

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Exact cum spune Ada. :)

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Atata timp cat chestiile astea doar incep pe net si continua live (netul fiind doar puncul de pornire) nu vad nici o problema :) e o metoda mult mai usoara de a cunoaste pe cineva.. e drept ca e mai greu sa ii castigi increderea si sa treci la next steps decat pe viu .. dar merje.. (e ca la piata =)) )

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dc sa te intalnesti cu ea ? poate musca fata =))) :))) lasa ca se intalnesc altii in locul lui :))) sa mor eu unii sunt asa plecati cu sorcova! ce-ai frate de pierdut ... si asa nu o stii, mergi naiba la un suc si gata .. nu e ok,a2a oara nu mai mergi si gata ! nu e nimic de pierdut oricum ai privi ... parerea mea

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Este asa zisa partea neagra a lucrurilor....am mai specificat intr-un mesaj acum ceva timp . cand totul se rezuma...la o usa care trebuie sa o deschizi.. s-ar putea sa o deschizi..prea tarziu...si sa nu mai gasesti nimic in spatele ei, asta e partea unde amandoi o sa aibe de suferit.. :cry: ,

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hmmm....relatii...
in ultimii 2 ani am petrecut si eu foarte multa vreme la pc...si in ciuda faptului ca nu am cautat,vrind nevrind m-am trezit cu tot felul de relatii pe net...pentru unii sunt mama virtuala,pentru altii birou de informatii...psiholog...ce sa mai zic...:D
vreau sa zic,ca sunt mai multe persoane care s-au dovedit a fi mai oameni,decit pe cei care sunt nevoita sa ii suport in viata de zi cu zi...si,poate suna a idiotenie..dar daca esti o persoana care are un pic de suflet nu ai cum sa nu te legi de niste oameni cu cine imparti problemele 2 ani de zile...asa ca...am ajuns sa tin foarte mult la unii dintre prietenii mei virtuali...
intr-adevar ,e plin si de idioti,care iti lasa un mesaj : "hai la un suc" si nr de telefon..si cind las un mesaj,detaliat si elevat,de genul NU sau DE CE? ,nu prea inteleg cum se face ca nu mor de curiozitate cind ei au binevoit sa coboara ....dar am descoperit ca e cel mai simplu sa scapi de astia cu technica "add-ignore" adica dai add si dupa 3 minute d vorbe ignore...:D
si ultima forma de "relatie"...e aia bolnavicioasa...cind parca te apuca dracii daca la ora 11 inca nu ai vorbit cu el...sau daca ai ceva de comunicat nu deschizi gura ci in cel mai rau caz iei mobilul si da-i p mesaj...:sad:
am cazut si eu in capcana asta...m-am si intilnit cu omul...si a fost al naibii de perfect...dar,intotdeauna exista un dar....
soarta nu prea ne ajuta ca persoana asta sa fie intr-o raza de vreo 60 de km...si el este ceea ce e,acolo unde traieste...si o iubeste pe ea pentru ceea ce este ea acolo unde a trait si traieste...poate la vreo 500 de km...
oricit de mare ar fi focul,in asemenea cazuri e sansa mortului la groapa...;)

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Internetul are multe facilitati... dar din pacate nu toti ii inteleg rostul in timpul liber... eu fiind din tg mures, pot spune ca am avut noroc cu internetul, de cum am ajuns aici mi-am facut un cerc de prieteni, prietena actuala, tot pe net am cunoscut-o...am vazut-o live, si mi-a placut... ideea in chaturi si mess este sa te simti bine, sa-ti faci prieteni, sa cunosti oameni noi... si nu as vedea de ce nu as putea iesi la un suc cand ma plictisesc cu cineva cunoscut doar de pe mess...la urma urmei este tot acelasi om cum ar fi daca l-as fi cunoscut personal...deci dupa mine...merge

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hmmm....relatii... , sa incep la fel :D ,
ultima parte m-a atins...si sti de ce :oops: , asta e adevarul..

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:lol::lol: relatiile incepute on-line...se termina foarte off-line.... :lol:

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nah... toate relatiile se termina mai devreme sau mai tarziu, deci nici cele incepute online nu au de ce sa aiba alta soarta :)

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eu una sunt de genul relatiilor palpabile.... daca intelegeti ce vreau sa spun ;)

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nu e vorba de asta, dar spre exemplu, acum sa te intreb pe tine... uite, stii pe cineva de pe forum, ai vorbit pe mess cu el, si vine la tg. Jiu, intamplator, nu ai iesi la o cafea, un suc o plimbare?? si deja e ceva palpabil

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:lol::lol: ...da..palpabil pt cat timp??? 0 zi??? si dupa aia iar stai si astepti 10839780 de ani...zile...etc pana vine iar la tg jiu??? pt ce? are rost?vreun merit? sau alte alea??? sunt total contra....sa`ti pierzi timpul pt ceva virtual ;)

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eu iti dau exemplul cu venitul in bucuresti...am venit, si hop, ce bine mi-a prins ca aveam deja prieteni...

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in fine... eu ma refeream la cu totul alte relatii ;) whatever... nu mai conteaza;)

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cu exemple concrete zici?ale mele , tale sau marturii?:???:

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Si daca intalnesti pe cineva din Targu Jiu cu care te poti intalni chiar zi de zi??Oameni care i-ai cunoscut pe 4tuning de exemplu...

Internetul, dupa parerea mea, prezinta o buna baza de plecare pentru noi relatii de orice fel.NU ai inhibitii, omul nu te cunoaste inca,deci nu trebuie sa minti sa nu te faci de ras asa cum probabil ai face intr-o discutie live.
Ajungi cat de cat sa cunosti o persoana inainte sa iesi cu ea,si atunci cand iesi ai despre ce vorbi mai mult ca sigur,si nu ajungi in ipostaze in care te uiti pe pereti ca nu ai ce discuta!!!
Si pe deasupra daca te enerveaza sau iti displace nu ai decat sa treci persoana respectiva pe ignore fara sa te simti prost sau sa te gandesti ca te hartuieste si te urmareste dupa aia.